My ex-career as a muslimah

The case for Yemen, Muhammad, and Islam – Proof #1 March 28, 2011

Filed under: 90210 — evebitestheapple @ 8:51 am

As of late, I have begun to question whether Muhammad ever existed in the Hejaz region of Arabia. There isn’t a speck of archaelogical evidence that points to him ever being there. A tomb that no one has examined doesn’t count. Nor does the Ka’aba count. Where are the reports from archaelogists on the stones of Ka’aba that scientifically prove they are thousands of years old? The earliest photo I was able to find of the Ka’aba was possibly taken in 1850 A.D.(less than 200 years go) but the ka’aba is said to have existed since the time of Ibrahim and Ishmael. Ibrahim has been around since 2000 B.C. yet there aren’t any drawings or paintings from any civilization that points to this Ka’aba that Ibrahim supposedly help build 3,000 years ago. How is it that historians can find dinosaur bones millions of years older than the ka’aba but can find nothing on the ka’aba itself? And seeing as how Saudi would leap at the chance to feature archaelogical proof* of the Ka’aba, this is further proof no known relics exist for Muhammad’s Mecca.

The only “proof” that Muslims have is the biography of Muhammad that was written by Ibn Ishaq and even that doesn’t exist in any known, written form. It was later re-written by Ibn Hisham and he intentionally deleted portions of the original(that was written by Ibn Ishaq) because there were things in it that he said would be considered embarrasing. Even with Ibn Hisham’s version, nothing about Mecca and Medina makes sense when it is aligned with the seerah of Muhammad. Because of this a person could almost deduce that Muhammad didn’t exist at all. But before I go that route I want to examine another possibility, one that can be very plausible and makes much more sense. It is the theory that all the events that are attributed to present-day Mecca and Medina actually occurred in present day Sa’na,Yemen and vicinity. I will start to post my proofs here, one by one, as I discover them. (more…)


Fringe Benefits – Part 3 March 27, 2011

Filed under: Fringe Benefits — evebitestheapple @ 10:09 pm


 The image shown is the cover of Muscle & Fitness Hers magazine, Nov/Dec 2009 edition. I purchased a copy more than a year ago because I had taken up an interest in Figure competition and bodybuilding. Amongst the featured articles on the cover one was titled “Are you D-ficient? The vitamin you need to take”. In summary the editorial talks about vitamin D and the need for it, the role it plays in health, its sources, and suggested daily requirements. What is interesting is that vitamin D is considered to be the sunshine vitamin because human skin creates it from exposure to sunlight. An excerpt from the article reads:

“Vitamin D unlocks the DNA library for every cell in the body. Every single tissue needs it to operate at peak efficiency…”

I always tell my kids to go outside and “get some sun in your eyes” even before I knew about vitamin D and sunlight. Growing up in a tiny city in the south, I spent the majority of my summers outside. Days were rare where I spent the entire day in front of an Atari playstation(yes, you read correctly. I wrote Atari, lol).  But now it is common for children and adults alike to spend entire days in buildings that block out a vital necessity from the sun. Too many people rely on manmade products to supply the human system with what can be found in nature. Yet these people make their own choices about actions that are detrimental to their health. For the muslimah, Allah has made the choice that is detrimental to her health by decreeing muslim women to cover and deprive themselves of the natural benefits of the sun. (more…)


Can of worms

Filed under: Random — evebitestheapple @ 6:11 am

When I started this blog, I was reeling from my apostasy and decided to take on writing as a form of therapy. I was dealing with a barrage of emotions that were building up by the hour and I needed a way to work through them. There aren’t many outlets for people in my situation outside of a couple of forums for ex-muslims. Sifting through literature about exit counseling for cults was a tremendous help as was reading about apostates of other religions as well apostates of Islam. At first I started journaling in a notebook and I couldn’t write fast enough. My thoughts were an incoherent mess on paper so I considered blogging because I knew a blog would force me to put them in order. I went back and forth with the idea because I wasn’t sure how safe it would be. But then I came across diminutivediva’s blog, then brother a. ran off with a stripper, then deconstruction’s blog and I felt encouraged to go ahead a take my little space on the blogosphere.

I’ve started blogs before but never for anything so personal. When I denounced Islam, I made a commitment to go over all the things that I had questions about before but they were never answered adequately or at all. I also decided that I would take go over every Islamic skeleton that I’d thrown in the closet in order to be able to keep my faith strong. At the time, I didn’t have any intent to try to dissuade anyone from being Muslim because I felt if they wanted to continue to believe in Islam that was their perogative. The Muslims I know aren’t trying to injure people, they just want to practice their faith(at least the good parts). I didn’t feel them to be any different from any other person that follows foolishness so, to each his own. I was, at one point and time, one of  them. (more…)


I’m not the only one March 22, 2011

Filed under: Random — evebitestheapple @ 6:09 am

It seems the companions at the time of Muhammad were just as befuddled about the references of unnamed people in the Quran as everyone else. A hadith in Bukhari states:

“Narrated Abu Hurairah: While we were sitting with the Prophet Surah Al-Jumuah was revealed to him and when the verse “And He(Allah) has sent him(Muhammad) also to other(Muslims)…..(62:3)” by the Prophet, I said “Who are they O’ Allah’s Apostle?” The Prophet did not reply till I repeated my question thrice. At that time Salman Al-Farisi was with us. So Allah’s Apostle put his hand on Salman saying “If faith were at(the place of ) Ath-Thuraiya(pleiades, the highest star), even then(some men or man from these people (i.e. Salman’s folk) would attain it.” Volume 6 Book 60 Number 420

The explanation is that ‘they’ is referring to the people of Persia. This is because Salman was Farisi(Parisi i.e. Persian) and since Muhammad put his hand on Salman the inference of ‘they’ belonged to the men of Salman i.e. Persia.

What I wanna know is : 1. Why did Muhammad ignore the questioner and not answer until the third time? I’ve always noticed from hadith etc, that it is a regular habit of Muhammad to ignore people. Is he trying to stall until he and Allah can drum up an answer?  2. Why didn’t Allah just say all that in the ayah? What about all the people who would eventually recite that ayah and want to know who ‘they’ is? Ironically the next verse starts with ‘This is the Grace of Allah…”. Is it graceful to make people guess what your Kitab-ul-Hikmah(book of wisdom) means? That’s not graceful, it’s annoying.


Setting the stage – J4 March 17, 2011

Filed under: Journey — evebitestheapple @ 2:08 am

“O Romeo, Romeo wherefore art thou Romeo?”

My first impromptu meeting with a brother is what piqued my interest in marriage. Prior to that meeting, I was perfectly content studying my religion and entertaining ideas of what to do with my life. I didn’t read much about marriage and when I did, it was the occasional paragragh devoted to marrying a ‘fair maiden with dark hair and wide, lovely-eyes’. It was a major turnoff to me that Islamic books encouraged men to marry one type of female. I found it strange for Allah to create women with a diversity of physical traits and then say that only one group of women were preferred. I found it even more striking that there were no descriptions of the best type of men to marry.

The seeds of marriage are always planted in the heart of the new Muslimah but back then it wasn’t as overbearing as it is now. The majority of the sisters I knew had been married for years, recently married, or were about to get married. Most of them married quite young, some as early as 14. The community I was in was mainly made up of immigrants with American wives. At the time, couples made up of two Americans or two immigrants were the minority. Many of those wives were just starting to adopt the religion of their husbands even though they had been married for years so it was like we were all new Muslims. I think those are the primary reasons marriage wasn’t broadcast back then the way it is today. There are many other factors that came into play but they didn’t have as much influence in propagation of marriage on a small, growing community in the south. (more…)


Ooops! Somebody made a boo-boo March 15, 2011

Filed under: Random — evebitestheapple @ 11:59 pm

I noticed a glaring error while reading through the Seerah of the Prophet(Ar-Raheeq Al-Makhtum, The Sealed Nectar). Sadly this book goes to great lengths to color the imagination of the reader with the writer’s opinions mixed in with the biography. Perhaps the writer should have spent more time focusing on Islamic errors than trying to gloss over falsehood. 

On pages 81-83, Safi Al-Mubarakpuri(author) tells about the the open call to preaching and the verse that was revelaed about it. He states that the ayah “And warn your tribe(O Muhammad) of near kindred[26:214]” was the first verse to be revealed in this concern of open preaching. He then goes on to state:

“When the following verses(26:214) were revealed, the Messenger of Allah ascended Mount As-Safa and started to call: ‘O Bani Fahr! O Bani ‘Adi(two septs of Quraish)’. Many people gathered and those who couldn’t, sent somebody to report to them. Abu Lahab was also present. The Prophet said ‘You see if I were to tell you that there were some horsemen in the valley planning to raid you, will you believe me?’ They said ‘Yes, we have never experienced any lie from you.’ He said: ‘I am a warner to you before a severe torment.’ Abu Lahab promptly replied: ‘ Perish you all the day! Have you summoned us for such a thing?’ The verses were immediately revealed on that occasion: ‘Perish the two hands of Abee Lahab and perish he!…[111:1-5]” (more…)


Making of a Deen: Ace cards – Arabic March 10, 2011

Filed under: Making of a Deen — evebitestheapple @ 2:08 am

Note: Refer to the Original post of the ‘Making of a Deen’ series as the starting point

Card games were very popular when I was growing up. Games like Bid Whist, Spades, and Poker were the source of many late-night weekend parties for my parents. However, other than Uno and Solitaire, I don’t know how to play any card games and am unfamiliar with the rules belonging to them. Yet, even a novice knows about the Ace card and the excitement it can incite in player. In Uno, the ‘wild’ card is the equivalent of an ace and the ‘wild draw four’ card is like the ace of spades. When dealing, the smirks and giddy grins of an opponent was always a tell-tell sign that they had a wild card(or two).

Both aces and wild cards are the vanguards of card games. Players, at times, hold onto them voraciously or wield them maliciously. They can even become indignent and smug since these cards can give them a preconceived notion that they will win. But, just like all things in life, the tables can be turned using the less significant cards and the ace rendered completely useless. So the same can be said about Arabic. Shayhks and scholars hail Arabic as the best and most perfect language and that is why Allah chose to send his last Revelation using it. Therefore Arabic is the Ace of Spades for Deen-ul-Islam. (more…)